Should you stay, or should you go?
The proven membership for women in midlife who are done living in the in-between of their marriage. Get the tools, coaching, and community to come to a decision you can live with, without regret.
Should you stay, or should you go?
The proven membership for women in midlife who are done living in the in-between of their marriage. Get the tools, coaching, and community to come to a decision you can live with, without regret.
You didn't get here overnight.
For years, maybe decades, you've been in a marriage that looks fine from the outside. You've raised the kids, built the career, kept the household running. And somewhere along the way, you stopped feeling seen, desired, or connected to the man you married.
You've thought about leaving. You've thought about staying. You've gone back and forth so many times you've lost count.
You've read the books. Listened to the podcasts. Maybe tried therapy, or had the same conversation with him for the hundredth time, hoping this would be the one that finally moved things.
And nothing has changed.
Not because you don't know what's wrong. You do. Not because you don't know what you want. You do.
The problem is what happens in the moment you try to do something about it. The conversation you start and immediately soften. The boundary you set and don't hold. The decision you almost make and then walk back. That's the loop. And no amount of reading another book is going to break it.
And nothing has changed.
Not because you don't know what's wrong. You do. Not because you don't know what you want. You do.
The problem is what happens in the moment you try to do something about it. The conversation you start and immediately soften. The boundary you set and don't hold. The decision you almost make and then walk back. That's the loop. And no amount of reading another book is going to break it.
This isn't an information problem.
Most relationship advice is built for insight. It helps you understand what's happening in your marriage. It doesn't help you do anything about it.
That's why you can know exactly what you need to say to your husband and freeze when you try to say it. Why you can know what you want and still spend another year not pursuing it. Why you can know in your gut whether to stay or go and still wake up tomorrow with the same question circling.
You don't need more information.
You need a process for telling the truth, following through, and acting on what's real.
That's what The Decision is.
Three things that work together
The Decision isn't another book or another course. It's a complete membership built on the three pieces every woman needs to actually create change: Content. Coaching. Community.
Content
The complete walkthrough of my proprietary Decision Process, the same process I've used with my private clients to move them from confusion to clarity. The full video library is yours from day one, with tools you can apply immediately on the issues hurting most: communication, boundaries, getting your needs met, navigating an affair, and being more decisive.
Coaching
Four live calls with me every month. A live Q&A, a live Coaching Call, a live Teaching Call, and an intimate Coffee & Cocktails conversation. You bring your specific questions, your specific marriage, your specific stuck points. You don't navigate this alone.
Community
A private members-only community of women who get it. No more crowdsourcing your marriage problems on Reddit. No more pretending things are fine with friends who don't understand. You'll be surrounded by women walking the same path you are, supporting each other through it.
Wherever you are, this works.
The Decision is built for women in three places:
Leaning toward fixing your marriage: You want to give the marriage the best possible chance to evolve and feel good again, but you're not sure if it can. You need the tools to know.
You're leaning toward releasing the marriage. You're paralyzed by the fear of regret. You need a process that helps you make the hardest decision of your life and walk through what comes next without falling apart.
You're navigating an affair. Yours, his, or both. You need a way to make sense of what's happened and decide where to go from here, for yourself and your family.
Wherever you are in that landscape, you'll find the work waiting for you. And whichever way the decision goes, you'll be equipped to live it.
What I Believe About This Work.
Most relationship coaches and therapists are loyal to an outcome. The therapist wants to save your marriage. The divorce coach wants to end it. Both have an agenda.
I don't.
I don't have an agenda for your marriage. I'm not pro-staying. I'm not pro-leaving. I'm pro-you having a decision you can live with for the rest of your life.
That means I won't push you toward a particular answer. I won't tell you what to do. I'll give you the tools, the process, the coaching, and the community to come to your own decision, the one that's true for your heart and your life.
I don't save or end marriages. I save you from regret.
Hundreds Of Women In The Decision Are
Already Seeing Amazing Results…
What Members Are Saying...
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What happens when you click apply.
The Decision is membership by application.
Here's why: this work is for women who are ready to take action, not just think about their marriage. The application is your first action. It's also how I make sure you're a fit for what we're doing here, and that what we're doing here is a fit for you.
Here's the path:
1. You apply. Short application, a few questions, takes about two minutes. A $50 deposit is included to confirm you're serious. The deposit is fully refundable if we determine this isn't the right fit.
2. My team reviews your application within 2 business days. We're looking to make sure The Decision is the right fit for what you're navigating.
3. You receive your acceptance email with a private link to enroll.
4. You step into the work. Immediate access to the full video library, the community, and the live monthly calls.
What it Costs
$897 for your first month.
$497/month after that.
Cancel anytime.
The membership is month-to-month. There are no long-term contracts. You can cancel anytime, though I recommend mentally committing to one full year if you want to actually create change.
Real shifts in your marriage and your life don't happen in 30 days, and the membership is priced to reward women who stay long enough to do the work.
PLUS, Get A Special Bonus If You Join Today!
If you join The Decision membership program right now, you get access to the LOWEST monthly payment, plus…
Bonus #1: You’ll get an extra small group live call with Sharon
This is an intimate opportunity to ask me your unique marriage questions and learn, bond, and grow with like-minded women on the same journey as you.
I’m also throwing in a special bonus to help you find your way to a decision even faster.
You’ll get free copies of 3 of my best relationship books (one of them pre-release!).
STAY OR GO
This is my bestselling book of all time! If you’re questioning whether you can recover the feelings you’ve lost for your spouse and you’re serious about putting an end to feeling stuck, lost, and alone, this is the book for you. Thousands of women have already used the approach inside to find the confidence and clarity they needed to either fix their marriages or move forward without regret.
LEARNING TO LOVE
This is my bestselling book of all time! If you’re questioning whether you can recover the feelings you’ve lost for your spouse and you’re serious about putting an end to feeling stuck, lost, and alone, this is the book for you. Thousands of women have already used the approach inside to find the confidence and clarity they needed to either fix their marriages or move forward without regret.
THE MIDLIFE MARRIAGE
No one prepares us for marriage past the honeymoon phase - and certainly not past the 20-year mark. In this book, I’ll walk you through how to navigate a neglected marriage, how to rethink your relationship in the “empty nester” phase, what to expect when menopause comes into play (it has a MUCH bigger impact than most people think!), and more. (This is my NEWEST book!)
Get Live Coaching From Me Every Week
The Decision membership includes LIVE weekly calls with me!
This is where you can ask me all of your unique relationship questions that have been keeping you stuck for years on end.
Plus, as you run into new difficult circumstances on your journey (which, of course, you will), you’ll always have someone to help guide you along to the next step.
With instant answers from a relationship expert, you’ll be able to find new ways to move forward and make real change in your marriage - the type you’ve been craving!
But if you join today, you’ll get a FREE Mindset Bundle to help you stay focused, motivated, and supported on your journey.
It includes:
Journal prompts (get inspiration for writing out your feelings, opening yourself to personal epiphanies, and re-centering yourself daily)
Sharon Pope screensavers & phone wallpapers (so you can be constantly reminded of what you’re working toward and keep your eyes on the light at the end of the tunnel)
Coloring pages (use this therapeutic activity to relax and re-engage with your goals)
Hundreds Of Women In "The Decision" Are Already Seeing Amazing Results…
Lock-In Our Lowest Price Ever -
But Don’t Miss Out!
This is the LOWEST monthly payment we’ll ever offer for The Decision membership.
You can join right now for just $197/month. You SAVE $100 per month - for life!
And as a special BONUS, we’ll waive the $697 starting fee.
Instead of paying $697 for your first month and $297/month thereafter… you can lock-in special pricing - but ONLY for a limited time.
Doors close on Thursday, May 1 at 11:59PM PT.
This is the best price you’ll ever see for this comprehensive membership program… and we can’t guarantee you’ll see this price again.
And truth be told…
The longer your relationship challenges go unresolved, the more resentments will mount, distances will grow, and hurts will deepen.
If you want to create the best outcome possible for your marriage, there’s no time to waste.
Maybe you’ve tried other online programs that only reaffirm what you already know.
Maybe you’ve tried couples counseling that boils down to “venting sessions” and gets you nowhere.
The Decision membership is so much more than you can imagine—and it’s helped thousands of people just like you.
Lock-In Our Lowest Price Ever!
You pay just $197/month when you join now.
SAVE $797 - ONLY until Thursday, May 1 at 11:59PM PT.
The Answers To your Most Frequently Asked Questions
Q: What if I can’t afford it right now?
A: When we have a problem in our lives, we invest in solving that problem. If your marriage is causing you pain, this is one of the most important investments you can make in the next chapter of your life. That said, if the cost would create real financial hardship, I'd recommend addressing that first. The work will be here when you're ready.
Q: Will this work for my unique situation?
A: Your relationship is unique, but the patterns aren't. The struggles inside long-term marriages are remarkably similar from the inside. The Decision is designed to work for any woman trying to make sense of a struggling marriage, with one exception: this isn't the right program if you're navigating active addiction, untreated severe mental health issues, or physical abuse. Those situations need specialized care that this membership isn't built to provide.
Q: What if I already know my answer is to leave?
A: There's a reason you haven't left yet. The Decision will either confirm that decision and equip you to walk through what comes next without falling apart, or it'll surface something you hadn't seen yet. Either way, you'll be moving forward instead of staying stuck.
Q: Can my husband do this with me?
A: This program is designed for and spoken to women. Some women share what they're learning with their husbands, and some don't. Either is fine. The work is yours to do, and the changes you make will affect the marriage regardless of whether he participates.
Q: Is there a guarantee?
Yes. If you complete your first 30 days in The Decision and don't feel meaningfully more clear about your next best steps, just email us. We'll set up a 1-1 clarity call with one of our expert relationship coaches at no cost. No hoops, no pressure. We stand behind this work because it works.
You don't have to figure this out alone.
You've been carrying this for a long time. Probably longer than anyone in your life knows.
The Decision is what you wished existed when you first started asking yourself whether to stay or go. The tools, the coaching, the community. A real path forward, with people who get exactly what you're navigating, walking it alongside you.
If you're ready to stop circling and start moving, this is your next step.
Much love,
Sharon
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